The saying goes…
If you really want to do something, you will find a way. If you don’t, you will find an excuse.
But why it’s so much easier to find an excuse, rather than a way?
I want to travel the world, BUT…
– I don’t have money,
– I can’t quit my job,
– I am too old…
I want to quit my boring job, BUT…
– I need money,
– It’s difficult to find a new job in this time, I should be happy I even have this one,
– I am too old…
I want to learn a new language, BUT…
– I don’t have time,
– It’s too expensive.
– It will be hard,
– I’m too old…
Human nature is the funniest thing. We give ourselves excuses for the things we want, and we give ourselves reasons for the things we don’t want.
We will not go for that vacation we always dreamed of because we need to save money, but we will buy new shoes because they were 20% off, although we actually don’t need them. We will not learn a new language because we don’t have enough time, but we will spend hours online or watching TV. Isn’t it ironic, don’t you think?
Lose Yourself and You lost it all
If everyone would at least try to do what they are passionate about, maybe the world would be just a little bit happier place. It’s said that top 5 regrets people make on their deathbed are:
- I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.
- I wish I hadn’t worked so much.
- I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings.
- I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.
- I wish that I had let myself be happier.
It turns out we regret missed chances and experiences. We miss not following our heart desires. We often think we are too old for something, but most of the time the truth is that we have all the time in the world until the very end. Only then it’s too late. At that moment choices are made, life is spent and we can’t go back. And the tricky thing is, we don’t know what is our „expiry date“. Our lives don’t come with any guaranty. Maybe that’s why we have to do what makes us happy now. As pathetic as it sounds, but who can promise you „tomorrow“? Right here and right now, you have only one question to ask yourself.
Am I happy with who I am and where I am?
If the answer is “yes”, congrats to you! If it’s “not”, start changing things.
Don’t let yourself have regrets. A true accomplishment in the very end is to be happy with the life you’ve had.
Don’t waste time with anyone or anything that doesn’t do you good.
Don’t give yourself excuses.
Don’t wait for tomorrow.
Don’t bother with other people expectations.
Don’t judge others. It is not their life you are living.
Also, don’t compare yourself with others.
And choose honestly.
Only then you will have little to regret.
*** I wrote this text (or should I call it a self-help note?) a while ago when my own answer to the question above was “no”. I am not sure why I even started writing it, but I always felt better when I would put things down on paper. I guess it’s sort of a therapy (and it’s cheaper than a shrink). It may sound like a cliche but I do think this is one of the most important questions we can ask ourselves and that’s why I decided to share it with you. I would love to hear your take on this!
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